Bedroom Communication for Bottoms and Submissives – Marcia Baczynski

We bottom for all sorts of reasons: to feel small, to feel powerful, to feel controlled, to fly high and more. The yearning to turn yourself completely over to another is compelling. In an ideal world, you could surrender and just know that your top or dom has it all figured out. Sadly, mind-reading rarely works. As a bottom, sub or slave, you still need to communicate.

In this interactive class, we’ll explore how to do so without accidentally coming off as whiny, dependent, needy, or clingy, or as bossy, entitled or demanding. We’ll look at how to maintain a delicious power dynamic while using your words, communicating limits and boundaries, and giving necessary feedback, for the best play possible.


Marcia Baczynski is a renowned speaker, writer and coach on sexual communication, relationships and women’s empowerment. Her primary mission is to help women and the people who love them to overcome shame and get in touch with what they truly want – romantically, sexually and relationally – even if it’s off the beaten path.

Marcia is the co-creator of Cuddle Party and founder of the Good Girl Recovery Program. Since 2003, she has worked with tens of thousands of people through her private coaching, workshops and group programs, and she has made appearances in hundreds of magazines, news stories, radio interviews and podcasts. Marcia lives in the Bay Area, CA where she spends a lot of time with her delightfully weird friends, being an auntie, hiking and sailing.